Relationship cultivation is like growing a rose garden. And I did “promise you a rose garden!” The relationship must be nurtured or else it will whither. Note the fact that it is no accident that the strength of a friendship or family relationship may increase or decrease over time.
It is very sad when “the illusive butterfly of love” flies away, or when we lose touch with old friends or family. This subject calls to mind the lyrics from the Simon and Garfunkel song, “Someone left the cake out in the rain! I don’t think that I can make it; ’cause it took so long to bake it, and I’ll never have the recipe again!”
InSeven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey describes a metaphor called the “Emotional Bank Account.” It is a helpful guide to growing a healthy relationship. It is wise to be proactive in making deposits before the need to withdraw, because emotional “withdrawals” are often unexpected accidental emergencies!