Declaration of Interdependence
Albert Einstein is known as one of the smartest men in the world and the author of the theory of relativity. Did you know that he applied the concept of relativity to human relationships as well?
In his essay, The World as I See It, Einstein wrote:
…without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people — first of all for those upon whose smiles and well-being our own happiness is wholly dependent, and then for the many, unknown to us, to whose destinies we are bound by the ties of sympathy. A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life are based on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving…
Relativity Goes Both Ways
Anthony Robbins says,
Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.
Mobile Society Strains Relationships
With freedom comes geographical mobility. Unfortunately, we often move and often leave friends and business contacts behind — out of sight, out of mind. All too often we waste the precious deposits previously made in “emotional bank accounts.” What a sad loss of valuable social capital! It takes a long time to make an old friend! It is so special to be able to say, “we go waaaay back!”
In a previous post I offered a partial solution: “Social Media Deposits in Emotional Bank Accounts.” I wrote:
It is very sad when “the illusive butterfly of love” flies away, or when we lose touch with old friends or family. This subject calls to mind the lyrics from the Simon and Garfunkel song, “Someone left the cake out in the rain! I don’t think that I can make it; ’cause it took so long to bake it, and I’ll never have the recipe again!”
… it is no accident that the strength of a friendship or family relationship may increase or decrease over time. The relationship must be nurtured or else it will whither.
Mobile Phones to the Rescue!
I hope that new technology and social networking services will help us keep in touch with old friends. However, as with any tools, it is up to the human operator to use them effectively. Another great new channel of communication is Video Conferencing. It helps to include non-verbal communication signals.
Free Video Conferencing Online with
Google has introduced an amazing new tool for FREE VIDEO CONFERENCING. Google Hangout allows you to use your webcam to conference with up to ten presenters in up to 10 different locations simultaneously. You can even broadcast the conference LIVE or RECORDED to an unlimited audience.